What’s your story? [OR why being YOU is all that matters]

young ballerinas Your story isn’t their story. Just like their story isn’t yours.

I’m going to tell you a secret: Everyone’s body is different and everyone’s talent is different. Okay maybe you already knew that. But until you actually allow yourself to accept that, you will NEVER be happy with who you are and where you are in your life.

For me this is an ongoing process—a process of accepting myself, knowing my strengths, and recognizing my weaknesses.

I saw something recently that is a necessary reminder for us all: social media and blogs often only show the best part of a person’s life. (In fact this story just came out that highlights this further: Social media is not real, says teen Instagram star) Social media and blogs don’t show us real life, struggles endured, or what often is raw reality. We only see what that person wants us to see. Obviously this isn’t the case for everyone, some people do show all aspects of their life and keep it real. However, too many times we only see this false, fairy-tale like reality created by a person behind a computer screen. We start comparing ourselves to these versions of reality and consume ourselves with how perfect everyone else seems to have it, all while we struggle along. Next time you catch yourself in this hole, remind yourself that you are only seeing part of the story.

There is a particular aspect of my life that I am not entirely happy with, a part of my life that I am not yet ready to share. However, I will say, that I have decided to focus on the positives of what I do enjoy about that piece of my life puzzle and consume my mind with those vibes. To let the negativity go and focus solely on me and what I can control.

These are a few things I’ve learned that you may also find beneficial in your own life and happiness journey:

  • Comparing my chapter one to someone else’s chapter twenty leads to nothing more than self-doubt and insecurities.
  • All I can be is me—every bit of imperfect me. And I’m learning to accept that, to accept me, and to focus on my story. I can (and do) use others’ stories as motivation and inspiration, but focusing on my goals and myself is what will make me happy in the end.
  • My story isn’t written yet. I am in control of how each chapter ends and how new ones start. Live for my own dreams and goals.
  • Just because I haven’t reached my goals yet doesn’t mean I am a failure or haven’t made progress (this goes for both personal/professional and fitness).
  • So what if it takes me longer to achieve what I want. Enjoy the journey and be open to change.

What have you done lately to focus on you? To ignore someone else’s story, knowing that their story isn’t yours?

Here are words I’ve found enlightening and inspirational recently (from a few of my favorite Instagram peeps):

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I find it interesting reading the comments on social media. I find that with celebrities in particular, people will comment, "I wish I was her" or "I wish I had her life"..... Do you really though? 📱Instagram is 1% of someone's life. You only get to see the BEST parts of everyone's day ...new clothes, new hair, amazing holidays, love, happiness ....because we know, no one wants to show off their sadness☝️☝What you don't see is the 5am wake ups, the late nights working, the bullying, the changes in friendships, what it really takes to run a successful life, the long hours, the tears, the lack of sleep, the stress, the pressure, people trying to use you, gaining some things but losing others. Yes, I shared my incredible world tour with you on Instagram, but what I didn't share, was the 6 months worth of work it took to organise it. I didn't share anything the week before when I found out it may be cancelled. I cried, yes.. but I put my head down and made it work without a sound. What I'm trying to say is, no one sees the other 99% of anyones life. You see the best parts and you "wish you were that person". As I said the other day, the grass isn't greener on the other side. It's greener where you water it. #somethingtothinkabout www.kaylaitsines.com/guides #notaseasyasitlooks

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People who persevere to succeed in life pay attention to the lessons they learn from their mistakes as much as they do to their accomplishments. Ask yourself what you have learned from the greatest mistakes in life and how can it help you to succeed? It’s easy to get caught up thinking that we’ve failed in our attempts to succeed in our goals, but its important to take away all the lessons in life in order to try harder the next time. Open your eyes and heart, listen to life and what it has to offer. Learn more about yourself, others, and your relentless capabilities. There is greatness inside you, you just have to look past the mistakes and take on life with the an adventurous heart. #yougotthis #relentlesslybeautiful

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Exercise to be fit, not ‘skinny’. Eat to nourish your body, and always, ignore the haters doubters and unhealthy examples that were once feeding you. You are worth more than you realize. You are incredible, powerful, brave, strong, and unstoppable. You are #relentlesslybeautiful. You are everything! Start tomorrow by leaving all the negativity of today in the past. It's done, gone, and can't be replayed. Look at tomorrow with bright eyes and an open heart to make your choices that will lead you to the life you want to create. If something isn't bringing you joy, leave it behind. The negativity won't fuel your dreams, it will only bring you crashing down. You want to live healthier, do it! Make the change, make the commitment, and move forward. In life you get a second chance, it's called tomorrow. Take it and remember #yougotthis! 📷: @encarnacionphotography #gofitjo #motivationalmonday #fitness

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